"we all judge...that's our hobby...

some people do arts and crafts...we judge"  but in the superficial people watching kind of way...  "wtf are you wearing?!?!?!?" and "i love your bracelet! (that's the ugliest thing i've ever seen)"

judge: to pass sentence on, condemn...really doesn't seem like something that belongs in friendships or relationships.  i can accept " i don't agree with you" or "i care about you and don't think you're doing the right thing", but not judgement.  life is just not black and white and i'm learning that more and more..... 

live...

my sister alicia's birthday was on august 12th.  she would have been 26 years old.  and this year was different for me somehow.  it's been 10 years and where where where did all that time go?  i still miss my sister.  i think about her often and where she would be and what she would be doing.  i wish i could share chloe with her.  i wish she was still here.

i thought i learned at the time to live and love and appreciate life but it seems like that lesson is just catching up with me now. and it's put a lot of things in perspective for me recently about what is really important and has allowed me to let go of other things that just aren't worth wasting one more minute on.  there are no absolutes in life and "life is funny that way.."  and sometimes it's okay to just not know...